Why Filipinas make the best wives
or
Why Russian women make the prettiest wives

One lonely man, one impossible journey, one dream realized

The beginning ................

A few years ago my wife of ten years announced to me that she wanted a divorce. I loved her dearly and had a great deal of difficulty in recovering, and in grasping reality. I wanted to talk, but to whom? I tried many church groups and other groups, but soon felt that they were not equipped to handle the intensity of my grief. I was madly in love with a woman, who was intent upon becoming my worst enemy, and whose goal in life was to drive me as far away as possible. The Church provided no solace. I began to question where my esteem would come from, and turned to writing. I joined Prodigy, CompuServe, and a host of pen pal clubs. Through the on-line forums I found men, who like myself were either looking for a connection with others, or men who had found their special someone, and who were communicating with each other in how to better understand their new wives' cultures.

Pen Pal clubs and love.

I began corresponding with several pen pal clubs. I only found one that failed to deliver what it advertised, Family International. They charged me $25 an address for Russian women, and guaranteed that the ladies would respond. I bought 15 addresses from them, plus paying a $25 membership fee. After many months I complained because I had never heard from any of the women, and the company told me that they no longer wanted my business. They did keep my money. I continued to join several of the pen pal clubs. I wrote to hundreds of girls, and received responses asking for money for family emergencies, for tuition, for untold needs. I received letters from ladies who wrote once or twice, and then never more. After spending more than $2,000 in pen pal clubs, my experience told me that this wasn't working . . . . . . . . . But wait. Shortly into the correspondence I received a letter from a lady who was beautiful, 37, 95 pounds, had a degree in accounting, and one in law. She was the administrative secretary and office manager for the Cebuan Congressman.

I knew that it would be unlikely that a conservative congressman would have a "flake" working in such a position, for him. We began corresponding. We sent letters, faxes, and thousands of dollars in phone calls. Nanny always paid her bills, never asking for a dime from me. I paid my bills, never asking a dime from her. We were equals. Our relationship grew, and over the course of many months I went through a period of elective unemployment. She allowed for the relationship to take a rest and stopped calling. A few months later, I got a phone call from her, and our relationship resumed. During the month of February of 1995, I flew to Cebu and spent one month with her. I did spend some time alone touring the town. Near the end of my month with Nanny, I had come to accept what was inevitable. I was hooked. I had fallen in love. We were married on a Saturday afternoon. We had a Filipino Congressman and a Filipino Judge serve as witnesses to our solemnizing vows.

Common Problems With Pen Pal Clubs.

One of the problems that I and many others have found is that the pen pal clubs are quite often consisting of ladies who are unable to live a suitable lifestyle in their country, and therefore they are writing to men in hopes of finding a "sugar daddy."

Another problem with the pen pal clubs is that addresses are mass marketed, and many of the clubs will share ladies. The girls can receive hundreds of pen pals. In some cases, there have been grandmothers who have submitted high school pictures of their married daughters in order to write to men, and solicit funds. Some of the girls are cute, many are not. Some have education, many do not. But one common thread seems to permeate many pen pal relationships, a very large percentage of the ladies are looking for marriage to be a ticket out of their current living situation. This codependency may be viewed by some as unhealthy. Yes, wonderful, and quality ladies are available in pen pal clubs, some have done well, many have not.

Finding a mate that is your equal.

Men of quality are generally looking for attractive women of high moral character, and who are have acquired quality education and training. Men are looking for wives or girl friends who are capable of fitting into the man's lifestyle and social circle. The Republic of the Philippines is one of the best places in the world for men to meet a great many women of character. Visayan women have been historically acclaimed for their captivating grace and charm. These women, who come from the Philippines, and especially from Cebu, have an aura around them that is the envy of the world. Filipinas come from one of the few cultures left today which esteems marriage, and abhors divorce. Yes, my friends, divorce is illegal in the Philippines. Women enter into marriage contracts with their mates, for life, for better, for worse, for richer (hopefully), for poorer (hopefully not), in sickness, and in health, until physical death parts their journey.

When a man decides that he wishes to find a woman, he can limit himself to his own home, his own neighborhood, his own church, his own city, his own town, his own state, his own country, his own continent, or his own globe. I ask you, my readers, what is more efficacious, to marry the best available close to home, or to marry the perfect mate who is residing somewhere on the globe and to marry someone who is searching the "NET," looking for the perfect man?

I was faced with this problem, with the problem of finding a lady to whom I could relate. I am at a doctorate level now in my career, with degrees in Christian Education from one of the world's most esteemed Bible Colleges (Multnomah School of the Bible), and with a degree in Business Administration, and with a degree in Education Administration. I have traveled the world, and been open to God to bring that special someone into my life, and he did. Her name is Nanny, and she is a Cebuano, whom I love, and whom is very willing to show her love and devotion to me.

Meeting ladies who meet your standards.

Nanny and I have been so impressed with our relationship, and she has been deluged with lady friends who are doctors, lawyers, educators, business people who want to meet quality men (like me :-) ). We are simply unable to locate enough single guys to fill the demand. So, what we have elected to do is allow you to meet some of these women, women of high morale, social, and academic stature. TSM has given you a selection of ladies on the next page, whom you can select. You may write to us at the following address in Cebu, Philippines, and we will be glad to give your address to one of the ladies, FREE OF CHARGE. She will respond to you, and you may activate your relationship. You may fax, or for a fee, we be glad to forward your letters in each direction, via fax for you. Our clients may send faxes to our office, and we will deliver them to the person on the other end. And, our clients may receive faxes from our office there, sent directly to their home of office, for a fee of course. We are even capable of allowing for electronic messaging for you, to your pen pal.

We offer monthly tours of the Philippines, and are able to offer 12 night tours, originating on the West Coast of the United States for only $2700. Yes, we give you two free nights in a first class hotel in Hong Kong, free breakfasts and transfers in Hong Kong. You receive 10 nights hotel accommodations and airport transfers in the Philippines, a one day boat tour of 4 islands, a cruise from Cebu to Manila, a return flight, and even two banquets or barbecues where you will be able to comfortably socialize with ladies of exceptional, personal qualities. All of this will cost you a mere $2700, subject to change without notice).

Filipino ladies, American men.

Filipinos look to American men for moral and spiritual uprightness. Americans are perceived to be God-fearing, hardworking, and deserving of much love, respect, and admiration. The Filipino woman finds pleasure in being submissive to the legitimate demands of her husband.

American men find Filipino women to be patient, willing to undergo (live through times of) pressure. Filipino women are culturally observant of fidelity, faithfulness, and best of all, do not need to control their men. They give the warrior within the freedom to be a man, and adventurer, a leader, a trail blazer. Filipino women are conservative in their views, and yet fun to be with, humble, but as fierce as a lion when necessary. Filipinas prioritize family and marriage life as first and foremost. They are homebodies who look after the domestic needs of their children and their mate.

Basic Information about the Republic of the Philippines.

There are nearly 70 million people in the Philippines (est. 67,000,000 in 1992). The predominant religion is Roman Catholic (83%), Protestants rank second (9%), and Moslems thirds (5%). The Philippines was declared under martial law by then President Marcos, following student uprising, terrorism, and leftist guerrillas from 1970, until he was forced to flee the country (reputedly with the national treasury) in 1986.

Following President Marcos, came Corazon Aquino, the widow of a slain Marcos opposition leader. Aquino actually lost the election on February 16, 1986, Marcos was declared the victor. However, widespread allegations of fraud were made, and Aquino declared herself President, vowing to lead a nonviolent "active resistance" to overthrow the Marcos government.

President Aquino began land reforms, and won large majorities of support in 1987. However, she was plagued by a weak economy, natural disasters, widespread poverty (per capita income of $720 a year), communist insurgents, and low levels of support from the military. The country entered into a prolonged recession in 1989. Fidel Ramos then became president with only 24% of the vote.

Living in the Philippines today.

Today there is a rise in the standard of living throughout the Philippines. Philippines 2,000 is an attempt to build a new infrastructure to educate the people as to their place in the Pacific Rim. The major obstacle for the government today, is to bring the nation in the 21st Century, and beyond. The masses are being educated to look at themselves not as a nation unto itself, in isolation, but as critical members of the Pacific Rim. Thank to American Military operations in the past, the Philippines has excellent communications to and from the nation, although 1 in 60 people have telephones in their homes. One in 9 have televisions, and one in 17 have radios. Only 44 in 1000 read the newspaper.

Educating the masses with up to the minute information, keeping them informed is a critical problem for the government. One of the most amazing statistics that I have heard, comes from Congressman Garcia, of Cebu. Congressman Garcia told me that the average Filipino spends 80% of his income on basic food needs for everyday survival. The basic hierarchical needs of the average person is redirecting their energies to survival, and away from finding solutions to their problems as a nation, as a people, as a person. The Philippines is educating it's legacy, with an 88% national literacy rate. Their hope lies in their future, in the rebuilding of an infrastructure and a sense of "we the people." Their future is bright, as a nation, Cebu is the only port left in South East Asia to be developed to a significant degree. There is a future ahead, and prosperity for the people. The ground work is being layed, and the dreams of dreamers are being realized, even as I write these final words of admiration for the peoples of the Philippines.